Finding your True reflection in people

It always feels good to be in charge, being the one calling the shot, telling other what is right or wrong. But what happens if the roles are reserved? We are more easily drawn to people when we are in charge, and others depend on us for direction, leadership and to know what is right or wrong.

“The most colorful thing in the world is black and white; it contains all colors and at the same time excludes all.” Vikram, Corpkshetra, Black and White Quotes

The question of what is right or wrong, good or bad, acceptable, tolerable or unacceptable is one leading cause of most conflicts around the world. From the wars in Iran, Aleppo, West Bank, etc.; difference in view if fuelling so many crises resulting in deaths and financial losses.

“Black and white is mix of toughest simplicity and easiest complexity.” Vikram, Corpkshetra, Black and White Quotes

Things that distort your true reflection

•    Being ego-centric

It is a state where everything revolves around you and your feelings. When the only view that is right or the only thing that is correct has to be what you say, then understand that you are on an ego trip.

•    Lack of consideration for others

There are different ways to get a single task done, but when an individual seem to be all wrapped up in himself, he pays little or no attention to no other people’s opinion. There is more in diversity than holding on to one’ perspective can achieve. Lack of consideration for others can kill their self-esteem and creativity.

•    Nursing your fears

Timidity or low self-worth could make it impossible for even the person with the most beautiful ideas to perfectly blend into the team and then deny the group of such brilliant ideas.

   

How to reflect your true nature

•    Hear others out

No one is complete without others and so allowing other to air their views is the best way to get better results. People also feel more sense of belonging when they are a part of the decision-making process.

•    Have more empathy for people

People develop at different levels, and it is everyone’s duty to help others discover themselves and evolve. Criticizing or yelling at others would kill their morale and not assist them in contributing their quota. While some person learns faster other are slow learners, but they all have their place in making a bigger team more successful.

•    Learn to be assertive

For those with self-esteem issues, understand that a lot works better when you make your contributions known. To experience fulfillment it sometimes pays to step out of yourself and be involved. April Mae Monterrosa’s Black and White quotes states;

“Its not easy taking your own advice, accepting what you don't like hearing, & seeing the grey amongst the black & white.”

Finding your true reflections in people requires trusting others, cutting them some slack and loving them the way they are.