Loving yourself first

The world is full of people who daily grapple with seeking approval from everyone else. Because of the nature of society, the customs, traditions, beliefs, norms and moral expectations people are boxed into thinking and acting in defined ways; ways set by others and not themselves.

Problems with not been your true self

Daily people strive to uphold one standard set for them, and the inability to meet these expectations has resulted in guilty feeling, inferiority complex and low self-esteem. The need to be like others becomes critical when one comes in contact with that neighbour or friend who seems to be having a good ride at the dream. Those who live by the book and obeying the rules without much ado tend to put a strain on those who cannot, though not deliberately. They try so hard to talk as expected, live as expected, do as expected and ‘it just doesn’t seem to be working!” and they are frustrated. Now a look at this self-love quotes can help;

“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.”

― Rita Mae Brown

The thing with trying to be like the Jones is that you end up losing your originality. Each person is distinctly designed to be unique and process issues both rationally and emotionally finding the right balance for their lives. Even the most basic things in life such as your thumb print, retina and your teeth have a uniqueness that belongs to only you in the entire world.

Implications of living by other’ standards

In most case, when people try to live to other people’s standard they fall into a conflict of self, trying to define selves by the yardstick set by others. This results in a conflict with their real self and inwardly run at par with what others are guiding them to become. Tina Bossypants’ self-love quotes states; “Do your thing and don't care if they like it.”

Love yourself first, take charge

To be your true self, understand that others can offer advice but the final decision lay in your hands; after all, you are the one who stands to gain or lose whatever the outcome.

Taking charge of your life means finding what makes you unique, happy, fulfilled and going for it; not living in someone else’s shadows.

Yes, in self-love quotes, the emphasis is on loving yourself. But in loving yourself, the key is in loving others genuinely; respecting other people’s feelings and sharing in their good and bad times.